Monday, May 17, 2010

Living the Dream

So I only worked out 3 of 7 days last week. The goal was to work out six days. No excuses. I got lazy.

Is it bad that one of the reasons I like going to yoga is because I can wear a sports bra and check out my abs in the mirror for an entire hour? Is it bad to be that into myself? You know what would be bad? If I posted that picture on this here blog … now that would be bad.

I made the best dinner yesterday. Pot roast with red potatoes, onions, carrots and mixed greens. That roast slow cooked all daggone day and by the time I fixed my plate … I was in heaven. I opened up a bottle of my favorite Bordeaux and honey, you couldn’t tell me I wasn’t living the dream.

I picked up the new home computer and the Prince set it up and we are up and running. The old computer was just that … old. It was slow and had no memory and just a pain the neck. No one ever used it. Now that we have the new one, I have to make an appointment to log on.

Another month and a half I will be relaxing at the spa for an entire weekend! Massages and body scrubs and yoga classes and lounging by a pool and good food. Life is so good.

I’m going to a new church now and yesterday was my second visit. So far I am really enjoying it. Sometimes it can be difficult to find a church that you feel is right for you. However, if you are a believer and have a strong relationship with God the search becomes less difficult. You know what is right and you can spot when things are a bit “off”.

Speaking of being “off”, I had a conversation with a friend over the weekend. She left her husband because he was physically and verbally abusing her. They’ve been married for six years and I’ve known her for at least four of those years and she never mentioned it. I didn’t have a clue. Anyway, she said that they had been in counseling for an entire year at their church. The church leadership knew that he was violent but advised her to stay and continue to pray for him and give him his respect. Excuse my language but what the fuck kind of guidance is that to give a woman that is getting her ass beat??????? I was in total shock when she shared this with me. They knew what was going on but they did not advise her to leave the violent situation. See why Christians get a bad rap? I remember when I divorced my second husband. My so-called church family treated me like garbage after that. I guess a divorced woman did not fit into the mold of what a “good Christian” should be. Needless to say, I got to steppin’.

I had such an amazing weekend and coming into the office was not something that I was exactly looking forward to. But hey, without this paycheck I wouldn’t be able to have my amazing weekends, right? Gotta look at the bright side people.

I saw Just Wright on Saturday … Common is just as fine as he wants to be.

Good movie. I’m actually looking forward to seeing the final Shrek movie this coming weekend
and then SATC 2 the weekend after that.

Well, 12% of my credit card balance is paid and I haven’t put anything else on it. I’m doing really well with my spending. Yes, I got a facial this weekend but I budgeted for that. There has been no un-budgeted spending and I feel pretty good about that.

I guess I’ve rambled enough for this Monday morning. What’s going on with you?


Kristy said...

Hey, 3 out of 7 days for working out is AWESOME in my book! You know what's funny? I also had a roast last night with potatoes, carrots, etc. With red wine - Cabernet! Delicious. (And, yes, this was after I snacked on the bean and cheese dip.)

Remnants of U said...

It is amazing sometimes who is in abusive relationships & how well they hide it. I've known a few people and was very surprised afterward to find out that they were abused. Yeah, and anyone (church) that advises to stay in a violent relationship is just crazy.

I saw "Just Wright" too. And ohhh Common is so fine.

Luv said...

hey lady..i was wondering if Just Wright was any good.. i think i am going to take myself movie hopping this weekend ...still want to see Iron Man ..

i don't think it's that wrong to be that into you..if not you, who. we have to learn to give ourselve that attention we want somebody else to give us..

go ahead and post that pic..i double dog dare u

chele said...

@Luv: I loved Just Wright. Just to be able to look at Common for 2 hours was worth the $7.50.

Reggie said...

I saw Just Wright Saturday night, I really enjoyed it. I then went online and read how so many people were down on Common's performance, I thought it was just fine.

We need to see more movies of people of color as positive role models.

Yeah I really liked it.

Sarah said...

If I had any abs to speak of , I'd do the same thing. As it stands, I just check myself out in the reflective windows when I walk from one building to the other at work.

I'm glad your friend got out of the bad situation. . .so many people do exactly what her church said to do. It's so sad.

(Thanks for stopping by my blog! I've added you to my Google Reader.)

TJ said...

Enjoy your abs!! Congrats on your new computer. Common IS a cutie!! It is a very good thing that your friend is no longer involved in an abusive relationship. I am so glad that the Christian men I know and respect are FIRM believers in getting women in crisis SAFE before they get them counseled.

Rose said...

Wow that is something about the counseling to keep the woman in an abusive situation. Why does some churches hide so much under the carpet. Christians are not perfect and had they put in the effort to separate the two, pray with them, teach the man how to did with his anger and control issues- maybe the outcome would have been different and better. But when you ignore issues things get worse. Be proud of your abs. I wish I had them. Congrats on the computer and handling your spending....

I'm a full-time mummy said...

Hi chele!

Greetings from Malaysia again! Just want to say thank you for dropping by my blog on my SITS day. You can read the aftermath of my whole day SITting episode at this link:

Thank you again and hope to see you back here sometime! :D

Warmest Regards,
Jenny aka I'm a full-time mummy

AndreaLeigh said...

I cannot wait for SATC2! Next weekend, woohoo!

Icey said...

Girl aint nothing wrong with checking yo self out! LOL

I call BS on that kind of church "guidance"

Single Ma said...

I had so much I wanted to say about this post, but the church counseling situation made me lose my train of thought. Damn!