Friday, November 19, 2010

Support

Tonight I’m going to a meeting with some ladies from my church. It’s a group for women who are recovering from separation and/or divorce. I think I qualify. Inititally, I was reluctant to attend and even avoided the mention of it. Why? Because sometimes I’m not so smart. But I’m learning.

I’m the strong one and reaching out for moral support was a foreign concept to me. It felt cliché. And I didn’t want to be cliché. I didn’t want to sit around with a bunch of women bemoaning the loss of my man. (Remember that scene in Jerry Maguire? *shudder*) I didn’t want to be part of a man-bashing clan. I couldn’t see the benefit. After thinking about it for awhile, I’m hopeful. I believe that there could be a benefit to me and maybe, just maybe I have some wisdom to share. Maybe I’ll be able to help someone else. We’ll see.

I really like my church. It’s very pro-marriage and pro-family. And that is awesome but sometimes I feel a little isolated because I’m surrounded by all these happy couples worshipping together and then there’s little ole me. Surely, there were other divorced people at this church. I just didn’t know where they were. I’ll meet some of them tonight.

Speaking of divorce, I had a conversation with my ex-husband yesterday. I do not like having conversations with my ex-husband because quite frankly, he’s an idiot. He’s having issues with our daughter and I think he wanted to discuss them with me in hopes that I would take his side. Sorry. I’m Team-Princess on this one. After a lengthy, pointless conversation which involved the two of us repeating ourselves over and over again, I told him that this is something he has to work out with her. I’m out of it. Blech!

This time next week I’ll probably be at the gym trying to sweat off the pounds and the guilt that come from enjoying my favorite holiday. I’m making Cornish hens, fresh collards, mac-n-cheese, dressing, sweet potato casserole, sweet potato pie and apple pie. Oh how I love Thanksgiving. What’s on your menu?

Enjoy the weekend!

7 comments:

Shell said...

I hope you meet some nice people in your group!

Thanksgiving: sweet potato casserole is what is important to me!

Shai said...

I feel ya on the talking to the ex(we never married) and talking about the child. Going in circles and wishing he would just get, do it and move on. *sigh*

I hope the group helps you and others.

TJ said...

It is a great thing to connect with people who are dealing with the same types of challenges you are. People you don't have to explain things to. I really hope you find that way and a conduit to reach out to others.

Angie said...

I think it is good to go to meetings like that and find support and develop new friendships!

Menu sound delish!!

ShellyShell said...

I think the meeting is a good thing and hope you enjoyed it.

Thanksgiving Menu:Roaster Chicken,dirty rice,mac n cheese,garlic mashed potatoes,candied yams,string beans with smoked neck bones,sweet potato cheese cake and an apple pie!

Ca88andra said...

It took many years of navigating through difficult conversations with my ex, but now we can have normal conversations. We really only talk about the boys, but we try to agree rather than disagree. It will be hot here for Thanksgiving, I'm making roast turkey, roast beef, salads and my friend is bringing pumpkin pie.

Diva (in Demand) said...

I'm late so I already read that the meeting went well.

I sure hope you have some good gravy with that dressing though. LOL If you want....you can call me Thursday morning and I'll walk you through it over the phone. LOLOLOL