Tuesday, January 18, 2011

Sometimes I Cry ... And That's Okay

Lots of answers with folks saying how easily they cry these days. That's kinda sad!


This was one of the comments that I received yesterday on my Meet Me on Monday post and it got me to thinking. In fact, I probably spent the majority of the evening thinking about it.

The truth is when I think about my tears, I almost never equate them to being sad.

I cried tonight for a good hour watching Oprah and I wasn't sad. I was moved.

I cry in church during praise and worship and I'm not sad. I'm overwhelmed with joy.

I cry when I see someone sincerely apologizing to someone else and I'm not sad. I'm humbled.

See, my tears aren't sad at all. In fact, I don't think I can remember the last time I cried because I was sad. For years, I wouldn't even allow myself to cry. I associated tears with weakness and being perceived as weak was not something that I could ever accept.

Now ...

Well now, I have given myself permission to feel everything that I'm feeling. I don't suppress a thing. If I feel like crying, I cry. Whether it be in my living room, at church, at the movies ... wherever. Maybe I'm making up for lost time. I don't wake up in the morning and purposely put on my strong face. I don't have to. I am strong but that doesn't mean that I don't also have emotions.

4 comments:

TJ said...

I do not cry easily, but once I get started, the water just goes and goes. I'm fine with it, because all of those feelings have to go somewhere.

Diva (in Demand) said...

My little sister says that crying is cleansing....so I don't mind crying at all.

bayoucreole said...

I also believe that crying is cleansing. Whatever I'm feeling, I allow myself to feel it.

Anonymous said...

I cry ALL.THE.TIME.IN.CHURCH. So much that the ushers at my church usually hand me a BOX of kleenex as I enter the sanctuary....

sometimes people that dont really know me will ask are you ok? or rub my back and say things like "it will be ok" they just assume that i'm sad or going thru...in reality i'm soooo overwhelmed with how blessed I am and sometimes I feel sooooo good or i'm humbled or GOD speaks to me...whatever the case, people who dont know me assume i'm sad...when it's the exact OPPOSITE

I save my sad cries for my personal space...at home or in the car....

I cry at commercials, at OPRAH, movies etc...

one of my FAV commercials a while back was a kleenex commercial that simply said "my tears don't comprimise my strength"

its posted on my bathroom mirror...

sorry its soooo long

dee in san diego