Friday, January 27, 2012
What is it they say about "time" and "wounds"?
I pulled into the driveway yesterday after work only to find my ex-husband pulling up at the same time with our daughter in tow. He has a habit of popping in without warning and I’ve learned to not let it bother me.
He gets out of his car and greets me with, “Hey Beautiful!”
We’ve been divorced for 10 years and I’m amazed that we can go from complete and utter hatred for each other to “Hey Beautiful!”
I’m not sure when the change occurred. It was definitely a gradual shift. I guess I decided to stop being bitter and he decided to stop being completely full of sh*t.
I wouldn’t say that we are friends exactly. I’ll say we understand each other more than we ever have and leave it at that. Our daughter is graduating high school this summer and after that, I really can’t think of a reason for us to ever communicate. Until her college graduation. Then her wedding.
Time is an amazing thing. It really does allow for healing and forgiveness. It gives us distance and allows us to view circumstances more objectively.
If you are in the midst of a challenging situation … just give it some time.