It dawned on me that my youngest will soon be 18 years old. Technically an adult. If she decides to date someone in their twenties, what can I say? I can advise but I can't really dictate. A friend told me that I have to change my conversations with her to be less authoritative. I've started already and it's an interesting shift. She went to a concert tonight and I was not pleased with the dress she had on. Six months ago I told her to march upstairs and change. Today ... well, I just looked but she knew how I felt.
"What? Just say it," she said.
"I just don't know why you'd want to go to a concert in something so uncomfortable," I replied.
"How can you be comfortable in something that you have to constantly pull down to cover your butt and constantly pull up to cover your boobs?"
She had nothing.
And she didn't change.
Oh well. At least she had on a jacket and wasn't completely exposed. And she's with her older brother.
I will always say what is on my mind but now I suppose I have to think before I say it.
Interesting shift, indeed.