I recently read this article which details why women
stayed after finding out their husbands cheated on them. The reasons they listed ranged from being too
broke to leave to respecting their marriage vows; either they stayed for the
kids or he was a drunk and then got sober.
I personally know women who stayed with their
husbands or boyfriends after they cheated.
Even after having conversations with them about it, I still have to say
that I don’t understand. I am not in a
position to judge. People have to do
what they have to do. I just couldn’t do
it.
Infidelity is a deal breaker. It’s not at the top of the list though …
messing with my money is the #1 deal breaker.
Cheating is not just about the physical act because
if it were it would probably be easier (for me) to forgive. Cheating may involve an emotional connection
which goes much deeper than a physical one.
It’s about lying and betraying the one person that you promised to love,
honor and cherish. Cheating, in my
opinion, doesn’t end relationships but is a symptom of another problem all together.
Cheating is not something that “just happens”. Cheaters make a conscious choice to cheat
without regard to how it is going to affect the spouse. It’s selfish and it’s mean.
That’s why I couldn’t forgive a husband who
cheated. Fuck that. I would not be able to look at this person
every single day knowing that they could be so selfish and so mean. Our home would be filled with resentment
instead of peace. Hate instead of
love. Suspicion instead of
security. I would make their life
miserable which would in turn make my own life miserable. Who needs that?
I don’t believe that there is only one person for
everyone. I would have to leave and
start fresh with someone else or move on alone. I could not stay with someone
who has demonstrated that they have no respect for me whatsoever. I wouldn’t stay in a job where I was being
disrespected. If I treat myself better
than my partner treats me … it’s time for me to go.
But that’s just me.
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