Thursday, September 4, 2008

Caught Off Guard.

When was the last time you were surprised?

It's been quite a while for me. Until Tuesday. Yes, Tuesday. And we all know what Tuesday is ... let's say it together:

DATE NIGHT!

So, we're at one of our favorite spots and we're just talking. Nothing earth shattering. Nothing too deep. Before I continue, let me say this: in our relationship my guy has always been the emotional one and I have always been the logical one. That's just how it is and we accept it.

During our conversation, somehow we got on the subject of death and he said that he wouldn't be able to function if something happened to me. I said in my most logical voice, "Well, figure it out because I'm gonna die. We're both gonna die. I'm not saying that I wouldn't be affected if something happened to you but I know it's going to happen." Pause. "Have you ever seen that commercial about learning how to do things without cigarettes? I'd have to relearn how to make it through each day without you." Pause. "Tuesdays would be rough ... I don't know ..."

Then it happened.

I broke down in tears and couldn't get control of myself.

WTF?

When I finally pulled myself together he said, "Now you know how I feel all the time. Now you see why I keep talking about getting married."

Then I said, "Fine, let's get married tomorrow."

While we did not get married the next day, I am considering it more seriously. Not because he's gonna die, but because I love him and I should marry him.

12 comments:

Bballmom said...

congratulations on the realization!

I hope you are able to make it happen very soon.

Serenity3-0 said...

Awwwweeee. You're gonna make him the happiest man alive.

LadyLee said...

Bout time, Oldgirl...

And I've started writing your birthday story. Yes, i am psychic. LOL!!

Congratulations on those walls falling down...

lyre said...

I wish you so much that you deserve and need to enjoy before life flies pass. Kids are grown. It's time for mama. Let B give that time.

Blu Jewel said...

chele *sniff*, that was so beautiful. i read this in the midst of my relationship frustration with my current interest and almost truly burst into tears. i hope and pray that i'm met with a moment as profound and moving as these.

love!

princessdominique said...

Girl you made me cry. Although it's easy for me to cry, I lean toward more sentimental things and this is one. I know it took a lot to bring you to this point and I am enjoying the moment with you! Amazing!

Blah Blah Blah said...

Get married.
I wish I could offer more...say something poetic but...
I am happy for you.

nikki said...

girl, i'm in TEARS over here!!! what a tremendous realization and step for you!

i am so very, very excited for you. what an inspiration you are :)

TJ said...

Congratulations. What a great moment.

YouToldHarpoTaBeatMe said...

Awwww, Chele gon' be runnin' over trash cans and pouring coffee in her hands like the rest of us married chicks.

I never even looked at it that way, but that's how I feel everytime my husband has to leave me for long periods of time. I almost wish I hadn't read this at work, because I had to close my door until I got myself together... seeing things thru your eyes.

Go on and be the ying to his yang Girl.

Believer 1964 said...

The heart cannot lie.

Congratulations on realizing that without each other, you're both good, but together you're better!

Bless Jesus!

Rose said...

Chele that's wonderful. Congrats too! He sounds like a great catch for a great lady like you.