This is a deviation for me but I was thinking about this last night while watching Dancing With the Stars ...
If you don't watch the show just bear with me for a moment because I actually have a point.
The contestants are always a mixture of folks who actually have some talent and folks who just plain suck. You can usually tell from the first episode who belongs to which group. This season Steve Wosniak (Founder of Apple Computers) and Steve-O (from Jackass fame) are two guys with no rhythm and are really just sort of funny to watch. But don't get it twisted ... they cannot dance. Wosniak received the lowest judges' score in DWTS history and Steve-O went blank in the middle of the dance routine.
So, I'm wondering why after three weeks and two eliminations they are both still in the competition.
The two couples that find themselves in the "bottom two" have to participate in a dance off in order to determine who stays and who goes. The judge's scores are combined with the viewer votes to determine the final score. The first week Wosniak had to dance off against Belinda Carlyle (from the Go-Go's). They were both weird and awkward but Belinda lost and had to go home. Last night, neither Wosniak or Steve-O were even in the bottom two ... Holly Madison (from The Girls Next Door) and Denise Richards (pictured) had to compete in the dance off. Again, they are not strong dancers but I don't believe they should have been in the bottom two while the Steves were still hanging around.
Okay here's my point: I'm sure that the majority of the people that vote are women. It just seems to me that women will not support other women. Why is that? I see so many examples of this behavior in my everyday life and it just blows me away. Why won't we support each other? We don't do it at work, we compete with each other for men, we seem to always be one-upping each other and in the most catty ways. I hate it. That explains why recently I've been hearing more and more women say, "I don't have any girlfriends". I say it too. In "real life" I have my sister and that's pretty much it. I have cyber friends that know more about me than most people in real life and that makes me scratch my head. It's true that it's mostly surface information ... I mean you don't know what makes me cry or the last time I shed a tear. You don't know my greatest fear or what keeps me up at night. I don't think we ever really valued or even learned the importance of cultivating female alliances.
Why is it so difficult for women to forge true, meaningful relationships with other women?