Monday, January 11, 2010
A New Day
For years I have been fretting over what to do when my nest is empty. Why did I start fretting so early? Because I didn’t want to be caught off-guard in an empty house and not know what to do. I’m a planner, so sue me. I know that at 19 and 15 they ain’t going nowhere no time soon, however, they each make their own little declarations of independence which remind me that things have definitely changed. When my daughter left me on Christmas I was devastated. But that’s how it is, I guess. As the years pass we will spend fewer Christmases together. But that episode opened my eyes to something (and this may sound harsh): I have put many things in my life on hold because I want them to be comfortable yet my comfort doesn’t even seem to be on their radar. I know, I know … as the mother that’s my job … but enough is enough. And they are old enough to understand that … and if they aren’t … they have some growing up to do.