You teach people how to treat you.
You've heard that before, right? I say it all the time. In fact, I said it to one of my younger co-workers yesterday. She felt she was being dealt with unfairly and wanted to know what she should do. I don't give advice. I make suggestions but I never say to someone, "You should do this" or "You need to do that". So I told her You teach people how to treat you. If you accept this treatment now than that is the signal that you will always accept it. You have set the bar for what is acceptable treatment. If someone hits you over the head once and you don't say anything than they'll do it again ... and again ... again.
We've got to set the bar higher.
If someone knows they can do whatever and get away with it ... why would you think that they wouldn't do it again? Come on.
Know that you deserve better and if your present situation is not living up to your expectations than you have a decision to make.
The very first time someone comes at you crazy, you have got to correct that situation immediately. There is a woman at work who assigns a nickname or term of endearment to some of us. She has called me "boo-boo", "sweetie" ... stuff like that. It doesn't bother me one way or the other. However, it does bother one of my other co-workers and she told her the very first time, "I would prefer it if you would please call me (her given name)." No muss, no fuss. It's something small but she wanted the woman to know that she wanted to be treated as a professional at all times. Period.
We can't be afraid to speak up. We can't be afraid to ask for what we want. We have got to teach people how to treat us. Let them know what you will accept. What's the worse thing that could happen?